There are so many times I wish I’d had the gumption to politely excuse myself from dates that had gone completely south (like that time I ended up going out for drinks with a man who turned out to be a Holocaust denier. #truestory). However, walking away is easier said than done. As North Americans, we’re raised in a culture that values manners and likability over forthrightness. I never really noticed this until my friends, who had grown up in Germany, pointed out North Americans “were overly polite and smiled so much it was almost creepy.” Consequently, none of my German girlfriends are afraid to be bluntly honest – about anything.
Most of us remember the first time someone bought us flowers for no apparent reason or surprised us with a homemade meal – because it made us feel special.
If you’re looking to improve your dating life in the coming years (and boost your own well being in the process), here’s something to try: small random acts of kindness.
While having a good sense of humour is definitely an asset in the online dating world, there are some topics you should never joke about on a first date. Just ask the guy from Reddit who claims he was arrested and taken to jail after he joked about being a serial killer on a first date.
Online dating has been around for a while and continues to be an ever-growing, popular way to find love. Regrettably, not everyone who uses online dating apps has romantic intentions.
Yes, I’m talking about internet trolls. These are the people who are just online to lurk, badger and waste everyone’s time. Trolls are by far one of – if not the – biggest pitfall to online dating. They’re annoying, disruptive and will go to any lengths to be hurtful and cause psychological duress. Just ask the woman who unfortunately experienced a totally obnoxious man who swiped right just to call her fat. Ugh.
It’s a fact of life that we want our friends to like who we are dating. In many cases, as in mine, your friends know you better than you know yourself. It is for this reason, I value my friends’ opinions. So, when they don’t like someone I’m dating, it makes me question; Am I missing a key sign that this person is not right for me? What are they seeing that I’m missing?
There are very few things that can be as anxiety provoking as first dates, especially when you’re meeting someone with whom you have only had online interaction. You want to make a good first impression appearance wise, and with your personality – or, at least, that should be the goal.